How do you make your dream materialize when there are countless obstacles in your way and millions wanting the same thing? Not to mention reality, children, bills, illness and everything else often halts every attempt and reminds you that what you’re gunning for is a dream, nothing else. But people dream for a reason, and it’s difficult, but not impossible, to achieve them.
There are things anyone determined to achieve a goal needs to keep in mind no matter how bleak things get. This is the purpose of this article, and I’m going to tell you how you can begin to make your dream materialize.
The competition isn’t as big as you think
Everyone’s dealing with setbacks of reality the same way you are, and their dedication to achieving their goal varies. Most will quit early on and begin something else or learn to live happily in the world they’ve built for themselves without a desire to achieve the dream they once had.
Only a few people remain consistent. They are the top 10%. That’s where you should be, and it’s the people there who you should be competing with.
Begin as a novice
What often puts people off chasing their dream is that they know they’ll have to spend an unpredictable amount of time as a novice at what they do. This is intimidating and almost embarrassing: everyone knows what you’re trying to do, and they know you haven’t got there.
Procrastination can be a result of this anxiety. It can also be a result of a learned fear of failure. The latter is paralyzing and you can spend far too much time calculating or even worse, imitating what’s popular to avoid criticism and failure.
Don’t be afraid to be a novice. Everyone who is successful in the field you want to succeed in was a novice at some point as well.
When you decide to take your dream seriously, you need to learn about it. Get coaching, get a teacher or at the very least read around it and do research. Grow a thick skin and pick out what could help you improve from any piece of criticism – no matter how harsh.
Without learning as much as possible about what I wanted to do and then applying it, I wouldn’t have seen the success I’ve seen now.
Without being taught or without learning about the area you want to succeed in your dream won’t materialise.
Getting to the top 10% in your field can only be done by following principles taught by other people who have been through the journey to achieve the same aim as you, but at some point, in order to become the best at what you do, you’ll have to become an innovator. Remember this.
Don’t live by the results of other people’s thinking
Playing by the rules can dangerously halt your performance. Traditional ladders are often rigid and can slow you down and make you average. Just think about mainstream education: they punish error therefore making you afraid to try anything different and keeping you trapped in a certain way of thinking. If what you’re doing seems risky or even crazy to others and yourself (at least initially) then you should keep doing it. Follow your heart and the voice inside of you. Stay faithful, stay true to yourself and good things will follow if you persist.
Persist until you get to where you want to be
Be patient. Ermias Ashgedom, AKA Nipsey Hussle, has often described the road to success as a marathon, not a sprint. This analogy says it all: keep running until you get to the finish line.
Make your life optimise your performance
While you’re away from work, like sleeping, spending time with friends, or other activities, your subconscious is working through problems you want to solve. Leverage your subconscious so that it’s constantly concerned with how to achieve your dreams.
This is why when you wake up the first thing you need to do is act. This may be returning to work you started the day before or by beginning something new. Do this before anything else so that you can capture the work your subconscious has been doing while you were asleep.
Being physically and mentally healthy is crucial for enhanced performance as well. Our body and mind work in unison, so when we’re healthy we’re more prone to inspiration, so ensure your mind and body are free from tension.
Allow time for recovery
Give yourself time to rest and recover. What occurs in fitness occurs in all activities; if you never take break from what you’re doing you won’t build strength, stamina, and endurance. Recovery can take place in different forms, it can be listening to music, spending time with friends and family, preparing and eating food or whatever it is that rejuvenates you.
Be positive when you work
Many people experience emotional resistance before starting a task. This can be due to fear, uncertainty, and feelings of inadequacy. You don’t want these emotions to be present while you work as they will negatively influence how you perform. Turn your emotional state into a positive one because how you feel during the time that you’re working can determine the quality of it.
Don’t be afraid of fear
To be fearless is impossible, but you can use it to drive you. Use the fear of whatever it is you’re going to do make you stronger so that when it arrives you can sit and perform comfortably beside it.
In psychology there are four stages of motivations, fear is the first one, everything you do is to prevent punishment and negative outcomes, so you do what you think others want you to do.
The second one is reward, where everything you do is for the result. The danger here is that you become unable to truly collaborate or take in feedback as you’re fixated on the rewarding outcome.
Duty is the third stage, and the first of the intrinsic stages, which is a stronger motivator than the extrinsic first two stages. Duty is when you act whether you receive a reward or not, and you’re not afraid of punishment because you’re willing to do whatever it takes to get the result, whether that means changing initial mindset, ideas, or strategies.
Love is the final stage. You act because of inspiration and you enjoy performing solely because you enjoy doing it. This is when you’re happy to collaborate and sacrifice rewards, ignore fear and go beyond your duties to achieve goals.
You can do what you love for a living if you’re willing to work hard enough, make sacrifices and remain forever consistent.
If you want it bad enough, I don’t need to tell you what to do; you’ll do whatever it takes. You’ll reduce time with friends, lose sleep, take risks, find a mentor, get educated, and look foolish.
If you want it bad enough, you won’t even need to read this article.